As I got older, the dating pool really changed. When I was dating a guy while in my 20’s, before having sex I would wonder what kind of sex will it be 1) the romantic puts his hands on my face while kissing me kind or 2) the fuck the shit out of me sex or 3) the awkward but this could get better sex.
In my 40’s, I wondered if the sex would be 1) can this guy get it up. That’s a win. A little longer refractory period but he can still get it up. 2) he can get a chubby and get it inside but is it worth it? 3) he did coke and whiskey all night long and we’re just gonna cuddle which is ok because I like to sleep.